- A stand that you take first with yourself
- Enhances your self-esteem (the other side of this is that if you should fail at a resolution, it should not damage your self-esteem
- Includes respect for yourself and others
- Is realistic. It is something to which you can make a real commitment
- Is simple to accomplish
- Driving the speed limit and stopping at yellow lights is a stand that I take for myself but which also affects others. Drivers in Atlanta rarely drive the speed limit, so going 35 in a 35 mile zone makes those who go 50 quite irritated. Sometimes I have a line of unhappy (but forced to go the speed limit) drivers behind me.
- Driving the speed limit enhances my self-esteem because I feel good about myself for doing the right thing. I also know that I have control of my car so that if a teenager pulled in front of me, I could stop without doing harm. If I fail to drive the speed limit, I will feel guilty, but it will not hurt my self-esteem.
- Driving the speed limit is respectful of myself, the other drivers, and the laws of the city in which I live. The driver behind me who is angrily hugging my tail is aggressive, not assertive
- Driving the speed limit is realistic - after all, it's the law. If I drive the speed limit, I won't get a ticket (a built-in reward!)
- Driving the speed limit is simple to accomplish. All I have to do is to remember to read the signs.
- By drinking more water, I am taking a stand with myself about staying in good health
- Drinking more water enhances my self-esteem because I feel better about my skin, my body, and take some pride in choosing water over a soft drink. If I were to fail at this promise to myself, I would not damage my self-esteem.
- Drinking more water to make me healthier is by definition having respect for myself and my state of being
- Drinking more water is realistic - always on hand and available.
- For me this has been simple to accomplish. I see people every hour in my office, so I decided to drink a glass of water with each client. Sometimes I fudge a little and drink tea. Mostly though I use a water bottle and drink water all day long. I intended this as a goal for one year twelve years ago and it has become a regular feature of my life today.
NOTE: I do not drive 55 on the Atlanta Interstates - which is the limit. If I did so I would be killed. Nobody drives under 60 on the highways in Atlanta and most drive around 65 - 70.
If you'd like a good laugh, some GSU students made this movie several years ago in which five cars lined up on the Interstate in Atlanta and all drove 55. The results are pretty amusing and a little scary.